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16 Nov 2009 |
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So just a few moments ago, I rattled off the inocuously-intended sarcastic Tweet: "I think I'm a misogynist." My Twitter updates my Facebook status (of course it does, asshole), and within 3 comments someone I barely know had deleted me from their Friend list. We weren't actually friends of any normally-defined sort, so no harm no foul. (Ignore the irony of continuing to read this post while the stripper song plays on loop... You can hit stop if it's just too mind blowing, see top Right column). BEGIN RANT! Here's what is surprising. After just discussing the events of Richmond's tragic rape case, and communities who collectively do not value themselves and cultures that historically devalue women, it may seem somewhat insensitive to say as much. But goddamn, people need to grow a finer sense of discernment. I don't fucking advocate hate or violence toward women, no! I think everyone should just chill out and do their own shit. But I think women kind of suck. I have a lot of thoughts, some more appropriate than others. Here's my further explanation for a fucking stupid flippant comment that got taken way too far and viewed through such a narrow context: I don't hate "Women" with the capital "W" in the sense of culturally, politically, intellectually, socially, etc disrespecting/hating all humanity that is biologically female sexed. As one person chimed in, "The mere matter of not thinking something to be all that awesome is not a frickin' hate crime." Basically, I'm just not a fan. So if I say "I am not a fan of women," and mean women as "women," not "Women," then it could be chill. But if I use the proper English word for it, "misogynist," people be deleting me. STFU! If I had said I was a misanthropist, no one would have really tripped out at all. But here's the truth asshole: I don't hate anything, basically. Hate takes far too much effort to begin with. Moreover, "hate" is a reaction to fear, and fear is rooted in hurt, so what can I say... Yes, I have been hurt and I am a product of my collective experiences with completely psychotic, narcissistic, sociopathic, untrustworthy & manipulative women both in my familial and social interactions. And sometimes, maybe we have to be that way? Lord knows men put us through so much BS that what else is there to do besides become entirely calculating and a survivalist (though my idea of survival would still be drastically different than most chicks)... Just a thought? Maybe that other bitch was too crazy to even preemptively get her head around the concept? Another chimed in that "someone who deletes you for stating an opinion merely reaffirms your point in clarifying." Look, obviously not ALL individuals who are biologically female sexed share the traits I detest - if that were the case we would all be royally fucked. Even you, you fucking cliche textbook-feminist morons. Take a muscle relaxer and fucking chill. Humans in general have incredibly dark insides, places which you are either open to tapping into (maybe in a more healthy way such as via art) or shut off to (premptively misjudging someone's statement w/o knowledge of the person or motive). I mean, shit, I even tend to fall for men who have notoriously misogynistic subconcious tendencies, no doubt due to my own disfunctions and experience with/ views of both men & women. Women have a keen radar for fragility, weakness and opportunity. They have an uncanny abillity to tap into these facets of another individual and move in as a virus does a cell. Some women use this, some don't. Some of us are aware of our flaws and build from there, others turn the game into a vicious competition ultimately undermining even their own value. I know I have pulled my fair share of shit in the past as well. It is scary and twisted and makes me incredibly uncomfortable. When men are insecure, their lack of identification of their true feelings, and communication of such, comes out, most often, in negative ways toward the women in their lives. When women are insecure, despite having a fairly clearer access to their own thought processes, it comes out, usually misdirected and ALMOST ALWAYS, in negative ways towards... other women. When shit gets weird, EVEN WOMEN HATE OTHER WOMEN. It's simple fucking arithmetic, people. And besides, the Tweet was just an afterthought about the last couple years I have put into changing myself, and my surroundings. This includes dissecting my past experiences and people, and assessing new ones. I am sorting out general qualities I do and don't tolerate anymore and am warming up to the idea of chicks having positive qualities (after all I have 3 VERY close and very dear best-friends, and they're women). I do feel that women should support each other, and I think it's fucking ridiculous that we don't. But most of these bitches in their 20s-30s are too fucking scandalous and petty to be trusted. Unfortunately, though I do recognize that, even though we get along better, having 99% all-male friends creates an obstacle to being involved with anyone - fact that I have nearly all male friends who I am in contact with regularly, often comes across as threatening to other men. It's a no-win on that front. Long story short, in the context I intended, and ONLY in such, I stand by my statement. Retraction DENIED. |

















